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Continue reading →: A Calling, Not a Coincidence
I never rotated on general urology as a medical student. Most people exploring urology start with the basics—stones, BPH, voiding dysfunction. But my path was different. The only urology rotation I took was in urologic oncology, and it was with the Chair of one of the most prestigious programs in…
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Continue reading →: Becoming a Surgeon: How Falling in Love with the OR Changed Everything
I continued to push myself during medical school, always striving to be the best I could be. That meant countless hours buried in textbooks, many sleepless nights, and a constant hum of pressure that settled in my chest like a second heartbeat. By third year—when clinical rotations began—I was ready…
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Continue reading →: What Drove Me: A Medical Student’s Longing to Be Enough
All my life, I have been in motion—driven, determined, always striving. From the outside, it might look like ambition. But the engine behind my momentum was not ego or achievement for its own sake. It was longing. A deep, hollow ache to be seen. To be worthy. To be enough.…
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Continue reading →: From the Courtroom to the OR: Reclaiming My Voice Through Trauma and Medicine
I did not choose this journey—neither the one through a high-conflict divorce nor the one through a surgical career in a male-dominated field. But both shaped me. Both tested me. And both—ironically—made me who I am: a woman who knows her worth, her voice, and her power. What started as…
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Continue reading →: When the Sun Set in Hawaii: The Night I Realized I Was in a Battle for My Children
We were in Hawaii. On the surface, it looked like a dream — palm trees swaying gently, the golden sun slipping into the ocean, the warm breeze brushing my skin. We had been in couples therapy for a while. But not anymore. I had quietly stepped away, continuing only with…
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Continue reading →: Title: The Mirror That Lied to Me: The First Time I Heard “Emotional Abuse”
I never trusted therapy. As a child, I had been in it briefly. I remember sitting in the chair, silent. Watching the clock. Not speaking. I don’t think I even knew what I felt, let alone how to say it out loud. And even if I did, it didn’t feel…
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Continue reading →: The Gift of Bess: The First Mirror
Around the same time, I was beginning to take my health seriously—trading caffeine for water, fear for movement—I met someone who would change the course of my life. Her name was Bess. We met on a school field trip to New York City. She was the mother of one of…
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Continue reading →: The Day My Body Spoke What My Heart Couldn’t
I’m not exactly sure when things began to change. Looking back, I can’t point to a single moment when the fog lifted or the truth became clear. But if I had to mark a beginning—a first crack in the illusion—I think it started the morning I had what I now…
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Continue reading →: The Moment a Part of Me Died Inside
It wasn’t loud.It wasn’t violent.There was no screaming, no door slamming, no dramatic finale. And yet, it was the moment something in me broke. My eldest daughter was headed off for a “spa day” with my mother-in-law. I tried, as I always did, to smile and be agreeable. I tried…
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Continue reading →: Still the Outsider
They asked to meet with us—my husband and me.Something important, they said. So we drove over to their house, took our seats in their home office, and listened. They were updating their will.The beautiful mountain cabin—the one that had cradled countless holidays and snow-covered memories with our kids—was going to…