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Continue reading →: When the Wall Cracked: Living Behind the IllusionI don’t just dance, I perform, I breathe, I watch the world disappear I release my feelings I lead with my heart I tear down my walls I stop feeling sad I lose the pain I let go I smile No I don’t just dance I do so much more.…
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Continue reading →: Confidence: The Missing Step in Leadership
Confidence is often spoken about as something leaders either have or don’t. But rarely do we talk about how its absence can quietly undermine even the most capable leaders. I know this because I lived it. Learning to lead with shaking hands My training as a urologist followed the old,…
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Continue reading →: When the Pictures Lie
There is a box of photographs I avoid. Not because I don’t love what’s in them.But because I love it too much, and it hurts too deeply to look. Family photos are supposed to feel like anchors. Proof of joy. Evidence of love. A visual record of a life well…
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Continue reading →: Learning What Calm Feels Like
For years, I lived inside a body that never truly rested. I didn’t know it at the time, of course. Anxiety had become the background music of my life. Constant, low, relentless. Like the hum of a refrigerator you stop noticing until the power goes out. Then one day, my…
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Continue reading →: Too Much, Never Enough
The first time I stepped onto the ballroom floor with him, it felt like slipping into a sanctuary I hadn’t known I was missing. The music started, his hand found mine, and suddenly the world outside faded. For the first time in a long time, I felt safe. It surprised…
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Continue reading →: Choreographed to Stay:
Leaving, Returning, and Learning to Recognize Emotional Abuse Leaving wasn’t the hard part. Not really. The hard part came later—when the fog cleared, when the survival mode wore off, when the questions started whispering in the silence. Why did I stay that long? Why did I make myself so small?…
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Continue reading →: The Hallmark Man Exists—And He Teaches Dance
We’ve all watched Hallmark movies—the kind where the impossibly kind, emotionally attuned, utterly dependable man shows up and somehow makes everything okay. We laugh. We sigh. We tell ourselves, That man doesn’t exist. Not really. But what if that kind of presence isn’t just a fantasy? What if it’s not…
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Continue reading →: The Dip: What Dance Taught Me About Change Management
There’s a dip in our routine—simple, elegant, familiar. I had done it countless times with a previous instructor. So when I worked with my new instructor on this same routine, I didn’t think twice. I knew the move. I trusted my instructor. He was strong, stable, and more than capable…
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Continue reading →: Dancing with Perspective: How My Instructor Is Making Me a Better Leader
I never expected the dance floor to become my leadership classroom. Each week, I step onto the hardwood floor and enter a space unlike any other in my life—a place where I’m not the one in control. Where I don’t direct the tempo. Where I must be quiet enough inside…
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Continue reading →: The Dance of Friendship: How a Studio Became My Circle
When I moved to San Francisco, everything was new—my job, my neighborhood, my son’s school. I poured my energy into getting us both settled, navigating unfamiliar streets and school pick-ups, figuring out the rhythm of this next chapter. And then, just as life began to take shape, COVID hit. Suddenly,…
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Continue reading →: Heels or Flats: A Story of coming home to myself
Somewhere between the weight of the past and the rhythm of the present,I’m beginning to dance in step with my own truth. It seems like a simple decision—heels or flats. But for me, it’s never just been about shoes. It’s about how I’ve walked through life. Who I’ve walked toward.…