About Me

I am the eldest of four children, a big sister to three younger brothers, and the daughter of a woman whose resilience shaped my own. Growing up in a household shadowed by my father’s sociopathy, instability, and absence, I learned early to navigate emotional neglect and uncertainty. With my mother working nights and tirelessly pursuing her degrees to support us, I was forced to grow up quickly — but I also learned to dream boldly. I held tightly to my childhood dream of becoming a physician, and through determination and my mother’s unwavering emotional support, I made that dream a reality. Today, I am a urologist specializing in urologic oncology, and a proud mother to four children — three daughters and one beloved adopted son.
Through my professional and personal journey, I have come to understand the hidden scars emotional abuse leaves behind — and the extraordinary power of healing. This space is where I reclaim my voice, shatter the silence around emotional abuse, and share my ongoing journey toward wholeness.

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I’m so glad you’re here.

I spent years living behind a perfect picture — smiling for the world while quietly losing myself behind closed doors.

This space is where I finally tell the truth. About emotional abuse that left no visible bruises. About gaslighting, fear, loneliness — and about the long, slow work of healing.

If you’re walking through your own fog, know this: your memory matters. Your feelings matter. You are not alone.

I’m sharing my journey to reclaim my voice, my story, and my life — one honest word at a time.

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This is the exact moment that you learn one of the most difficult things there is to learn in life: just because someone does something to mistreat us doesn’t mean we stop loving them; there isn’t such a thing as an on/off switch.

You think, he doesn’t touch me, he only breaks things, its only the wall, he’s really only hurting himself, what he’s throwing at me are only words, he’s only calling me names, he only lies, he only yells, this could be worse, this isn’t too bad. You’re wrong. Just because it’s a lighter shade of blue doesn’t mean it’s not blue. And just because you don’t know how to associate love without pain, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist without. – Unknown Author